Families have their own rituals, behaviour patterns, beliefs and culture around eating. As children we consume this way of acting around food - it becomes our unconscious blueprint of how to be in relationship with food, eating, weight and meal times.
Some of these family imprints will be helpful and guiding, but for many obese individuals they are toxic and damaging. In the present day, the obese individual will be acting out these behaviours automatically, as they are so habitual.
They feel trapped and unable to change what is so entrenched in their make-up. With this negative ‘eating template’ navigating the social minefield of eating and drinking in life can feel overwhelming. Often it is easier to stay eating the way they have always done.
‘You can’t control the way I eat’ can result in eating sweets and junk food, which make the child feel good. The child is often told off, maybe even told they are fat and useless by the parent figure. In the present day, an obese person will have internalised the critical voice of the parent figure and the strict rules of their upbringing.
This results in futile attempts to go on strict diets, which are quickly broken, as the child within has already learnt to rebel against strict rules. An inner dialogue of vicious criticism makes the obese individual feel useless and pathetic, and so they reach for food to soothe their pain, as they learnt to as a child.
‘The sections above describe some of the most common psychological factors that shape weight issues for our obese clients. It is essential to understand how and why you struggle with eating and your weight in the present day, and this comes from investigating what happened to you in the past.
With this awareness and understanding, we can support you in changing and updating the old patterns that are keeping you rooted in your weight dysfunction. Every obese individual is different, and you will have your own unique story that explains your struggle with food. For this reason the treatment and support we offer must be tailored to address your individual needs.
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